Patience and change
There is an art to waiting. It is an exercise in itself and one that is not often merited or considered important any longer in life’s business. It also features greatly within supporting our mental health.
There is a relationship between work and patience, it is a fine balance. As with the harvest, the knowledge that by only waiting will we reap the rewards of the efforts we have put in. I speak of this related to work in ourselves. We can’t immediately appreciate and see change as we spend time looking inward, yet the foundations we lay down will indeed bear fruit. We often want immediate and apparent transformation; it is what we understand to be significant. However if we wait and allow our inner worlds to emerge unhastened, there is a bountiful treasure to be encountered.
Many people ask me when will I be better when we meet in the therapeutic space, they wonder how long will they have to come. The subtleties of change are a challenge to explain, they must be experienced-that is what our mind, body and emotion understands. There is a border that must be navigated between the desire for change and change being realised, and this is what requires patience.
So how do we notice change? Hindsight is often the space where we take note of our altered way of being; in a way that we don’t notice as it is happening. When we notice that we do something differently or that we feel differently about some situation that may feel familiar, then we are witnessing how change has slowly emerged within us, through quiet and gentle means.
The work we do on ourselves is a delicate process, it requires patience. The invitation is to move through our inner navigation as an explorer might, with curiosity and wonder. In many ways by even embarking on such a journey, change occurs.
There is a beauty associated with waiting. Recently, a friend shared with me the delight of finding a robin in her nest in her garden, she was serene in her waiting, her very presence expectant yet still. The change and life that was going on beneath her tranquillity, can be mapped directly onto our desire for transformation. There is much to be learned from nature regarding the relationship between waiting & change.
The cycle of life teaches us that change is inevitable; if we let it happen. The more we hold onto something and feel that our identity is forged by a fixed idea of characteristic, the less likely we are open to change. I will address this more in my next post.